I should probably start by saying I have always been a planner.
I remember being in elementary school and planning parties for fun. I’d assign different tasks or food items to friends, make guest lists, and draw out invitations. True story. You should’ve been at my 50’s sock hop themed 10th birthday party. It was a blast. We danced to crocodile rock. ;)
So when it came time to plan the biggest party I’d ever attempted, our wedding, I was PSYCHED. I signed up for every wedding email list out there…The Knot..Green Wedding Shoes..Alabama Brides..Southern Bridal Magazine..the list goes on. And you know what happened? I got so overwhelmed. I found so many beautiful themes and choices that it made me stop in my tracks for a second. I dusted off my engagement ring though, and went back to work. And I want to share my secrets with you!
3. Make your list of Priorities
For me, having a beautiful venue, great photographer, and awesome videographer were the top three must-haves. But you may see the cake as more important! That’s OK! Just take a few minutes to think about your list. Why is the cake so important? Would you get more bang for your buck from a fireworks show? Or is your dream caterer worth the extra $$$? With a written-out list, you’ll be able to make those decisions with much more ease! (On your mind AND budget!) Which brings me to the next one….
4. Know your budget- and if there is wiggle room
Knowing if your champagne wishes fit your budget is a pretty big deal, or else you may end up with a lot of splainin’ to do when that credit card bill comes due. I’m a firm believer that no matter the budget, you can plan a beautiful wedding, and I’m also a believer in smart budgeting. My “ideal clients” are the bride and groom who see the wedding as a small part of the bigger picture, folks who care more about the marriage than the money they can spend on items that will most likely be out of style in 20 years. (Except wedding videos won’t ever go out of style..duh!)
5. Enlist help
My Mom was my right hand woman during the wedding planning process, and without her, I don’t think it would have happened! I loved having her there to help me make decisions, keep me on track with my overall vision, and to help with keeping us in budget. I didn’t get the chance to hire a wedding planner, but let me tell you, if you want to enjoy your engagement, and have a smooth, relaxing wedding day, hire a planner!! I love working with planners, and get SO excited when I see that a bride has enlisted one to help plan her big day. One of my favorite planners is Southern Posies, Crystal does a great job and I’m looking forward to working with her again! :)
6. Premarital counseling with your Fiancé
My husband and I had the chance to do some light premarital counseling with our pastor before the big day, and let me tell you, I am so glad that we got to do that! We also did a couple’s bible study as a pre-marital session. Not only did it help us put all the planning into perspective, it also opened up a safe & easy means of discussion on all sorts of topics that need to be talked about prior to saying “I do.” Also, with all of the planning, it can get easy to forget about your man, and your relationship…so spending some time with him, just talking, is so nice!
So there you have it! The six things I think helped me plan my wedding in six months. Some people said we were crazy…but I think it was just the right amount of time to put together the day we always dreamed of. I always tell my clients, I wish I could go back and relive it one more time! (And I kind of can, thanks to my wedding videos!) ;)
Y’all enjoy the process. It goes so fast.
Megan Pettus, with MPV, loves sharing all of the pretty things with you.